Everybody likes pleasure, and sex toy use is one easy way to come (pun intended) by it.
While conventional wisdom suggests that men are more sex-driven than women, it remains the prevalent idea that sex toys are predominantly females. The public consensus is that men barely need anything to get off—as vivid imagination and well-lubed hands are enough to get the penis milking.
There may be some truth to that, but it’s nevertheless a sweeping generalization. Harmless, but otherwise biased and restrictive.
Don’t Mind The Bias
Yes, men’s sexual urge is much stronger than women’s, as study after study has validated. But the opposite can be asserted just as well with the continuously flourishing female sex toy industry.
So how do sex toys factor in the male sexual experience?
Men are often deemed highly independent, self-sufficient sexual beings whose skill and knowledge of sex are enough for them to forego assistive devices. A notion that leaves the few men who are neither independent and self-sufficient nor highly sexual or at least sexually experienced (see newbs) oblivious to the world of possibilities sex toys can offer.
Sex toys, in general, are socially acceptable, hence the thriving industry around them. Still, somehow it carries a social stigma, esp. among men where the preconceived notion of a sex toy is still the blow-up doll of old.
Truth be told, some have still been living under a rock and perceive men who use sex toys to be lonely or sexually deviant. And while pleasure shops are dominated by rows and rows of purple rabbit vibes, pink plush cuffs, and the like, discussion and recommendation of male sex toys is still done in hush tones. Hence, the reluctance of the uninitiated to open up and try.
Well, if you’re a newb and you intend to get your hands on some male-intended sex toys for you or your partner’s pleasure, steer clear of the biased trying to rain on your parade. Don’t be intimidated by the bad hype and focus on the sex-positive vibe.
Add A Sex Toy In Your Arsenal
In a 2014 FHM online survey of 5,000 men on their use of sex toys, cock rings were the most popular (30 percent), followed by Fleshlight, prostate massagers, penis pumps, and stamina rings.
In the realm of male sex toys, the variety is positively intriguing, and the latest innovations are mind-blowing. Navigating through the overwhelming number of products can be tricky, but once you’ve found the right one for you, it’s safe to say you’d wish you had gotten on the bandwagon sooner.
You can explore many options, and you can choose according to the design, functionality, and pleasure features that are suitable for you.
There are lightweight, compact, and whisper-quiet toys if you desire to have some discreet fun and sneaky sex-periences. Some toys are fully submersible in water if you wish to do it in the shower or at the pool. And some are designed for stamina training to help improve your sexual performance.
Penis milking machines are worth a try if you’re aiming to endure a prolonged session for a powerful orgasm. They’re an incredible upgrade for the penis with the relatively complicated contraptions equipped with artificial intelligence, and some even able to connect you to VR equipment to access a 3D porn library. They are designed for the sole purpose of giving you a huge finish (“milk you,” as the name implies).
Discover New, Uncharted Territory
Whether you’re flapping solo or flying with a partner (of any gender) in tow, there are about a gazillion ways you can spice up your sexual experience. And if better sex is your goal, sex toys can be a great addition to the pleasure toolbox.
Dr. Michael Werner, MD, a urologist and specialist in sexual dysfunction, recommends sex toys for men with impotence issues, prescribing gadgets like penis pumps and constriction bands (cock rings) along with pills, injections, and other medical treatment.
A 2009 study at Indiana University found that men who use sex toys were more mindful of their sexual health and were highly satisfied with intercourse and orgasm. And orgasm, need we point out, is beneficial to one’s physical and mental well-being, including reducing prostate cancer risk.
Takeaway
Sex toys can help you be more creative as you experiment with unfamiliar sensations and erogenous zones. Whether alone or with a partner, you can explore and discover what’s most pleasurable for you.
Pick a sex toy that’s tailored to your pleasure. Choosing the right one can alter your vision of sex and climax as you ascend into higher realms of gratification.
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
