Now that you’ve seen 50 Shades of Grey, you’re certainly intrigued and would obviously like to introduce some kink into your sex life. However, given that very few of us have deep pockets quite like Mr. Grey, how about we take a look at how you can start practicing BDSM without breaking the bank.
Mind you, it doesn’t matter if you’re into disabled dating, if you’ve been in a committed relationship for years, or if you like them younger or older. The one thing that matters is that both you and your partner wish to explore the BDSM culture a little further, and that you both consent to what is happening in the bedroom. With that being said, let’s take a look how you can be a thrifty dominant that gets the job done on minimal funds.
#1: Hit the Dollar Store
Mr. Grey might have preferred a hardware store, but a dollar store is just as well stocked for what you need, and all the items they carry are far cheaper than if you bought the same things anyplace else. Not to mention they’re around every corner. If you’re still new at this, and think your sales clerk might be ‘onto you’, and knows why you’re picking up that rope, fear not because they don’t have a clue unless they’re into BDSM themselves, in which case you’re among friends and they won’t judge you.
If you showed up at the checkout counter with a bag of rice, a candle, and a few scarves nobody would really know what you were up to. But, if you’re feeling too self-conscious walk a few blocks to the next store, and stock up on supplies there.
#2: Items to Pick Up
If you’re a beginner, start slow and with a few ‘toys’, which are used pretty easily. Mind you, handcuffs have become so mainstream they kind of don’t even count as a BDSM toy anymore. But that bag of rice certainly does when you make your submissive kneel on rice since they’ve been naughty and need discipline.
You can pick up some rope to tie around your partner or you can get a few scarves if you’re going to be travelling with your gear or if you’re still freaked out by a rope. Mixing spoons and spatulas should be next on your list, and these are obviously used for spanking, setting you back a few bucks as opposed to paying much more for a whip at a sex shop. You can go for a few candles as well because they can produce a wonderful sensation, but be careful not to hurt anyone.
#3: Experiment with What You Can Get Your Hands On
A good BDSM scenario is characterized by an exchange. Both parties give, and both parties receive something in return, and everyone involved consents to what’s happening. With that in mind, you absolutely don’t need state-of-the-art equipment that costs an arm and a leg to achieve this. Above anything else, BDSM is about creativity and freedom to use any object you get your hands on in a kinky way.
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
