BDSM, which stands for Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM), was incredibly popular even in the old days. For example, ancient Greeks were really into bondage and that was thousands of years ago. So, it’s no surprise that this particular fetish is still quite popular among kinky people. If you’re interested in BDSM, you should definitely know a thing or two before you actually meet people online and engage in kinky sex with them. Here are some of the most important BDSM tips for beginners.
Open Communication With The Partner Is Crucial
As you probably already know, there’s no good sex without good and open communication between lovers. The case is no different when it comes to BDSM. Exploring this uncharted territory is incredibly exciting, but it’s also rather tricky. Therefore, you simply have to openly discuss many things with your partner before you actually engage in any kind of kinky activity. You have to be on the same page and explore each other’s fantasies. This is literally the only way to experience a good and safe BDSM adventure.
Establish Mutual Trust
Besides the already mentioned communication, you also need to find the way to establish a high level of mutual trust. Why is this important? Well, if you can’t trust your partner completely, you can’t really relax and surrender yourself to him or her, right? Therefore, in order to have a successful and fulfilling BDSM experience, you have to gain your partner’s trust and vice versa.
Blindfolds And Sensation Play Are Good For Newbies
When someone mentions BDSM, people automatically start talking about whips, bondages, chains, and domination game. However, this sounds a bit too much, especially for a newbie. In order to fully appreciate this part of the kinky world, you have to take baby steps first. So, forget about the latex outfits, whips, and bondages for a while and focus on something more suitable for beginners. We’re talking about good old blindfolds and sensation play. This is the safest and best way to start your BDSM journey. The things you need are a blindfold, candlewax, and a feather. This way you can play with temperature and delicate touch while enhancing the sensation by blindfolding your sexual partner. After you master these simple tricks, you’ll be able to experiment with more serious equipment and expensive toys.
Establish Boundaries And Determine The Safe Word
Before you actually start using serious sex toys, like bondages for example, you have to establish certain boundaries with your partner. Both of you need to know what is ok and what is off limits. The best way to do so is by setting some ground rules and determining the famous safe word. This word is your way out. So, whenever you feel uncomfortable or like you’re in some sort of danger, just say the word and your partner has to stop. This also applies to you, if your partner says the safe word, you have to respect that. Ignoring these rules might lead to serious injuries and very dangerous situations. Therefore, play fair and honor the deal!
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
