Top 12 S&M Settings Guide – Preparing for Playtime

While some people are afraid of diving into the kinky side of sex, others have no issue with practicing S&M on a daily basis. And you better believe that this type of sexual preference isn’t reserved for transgender dating or something like that.

Still, before actually committing a sexual S&M act, one must know how to properly go through foreplay first. In that name, here are our picks for the top 12 methods of preparing for an sadomasochistic session with your partner.

  1. Determine Your Goals

Before actually interacting with your partner in any way, you must first determine what do you actually want to achieve by practicing S&M in bed. It might not sound like it’s part of the foreplay, but it’s extremely important overall.

  1. Double-Check Your Fantasies

Once you start doing S&M, there’s no turning back. Think really hard if, why and how you want to do this before the foreplay begins.

  1. Talk to Your Partner

S&M (and all other variations of BDSM) require good communication between you and your partner. Make sure that you’re on the same page with them, tell them what you like or dislike, etc.

  1. Pick One Fantasy

Doing foreplay for S&M can only be done if you do one adventure at a time. This type of sexual activity can be overwhelming sometimes, so it’s better to stay on the safe side.

  1. Establish Clear Rules

Speaking of safety, an absolute must-do is setting boundaries. Both you and your partners should always know what is and isn’t OK to do while practicing S&M.

  1. Take it Slow

S&M is more an art form than a way of making love, which is exactly why it should be done in baby steps and not huge leaps.

  1. Talk to Your Partner Some More

After each and every S&M session, make sure that you sit down and talk to your partner about how it went and what could’ve been done better or just differently.

  1. Play Party

A great introduction to S&M could be a “play party,” where you can just sit back and watch as other couples perform sadomasochistic acts to one another.

  1. Have no Fear

Even though S&M mostly revolves around dominance and pain, it’s really important to remember to always be ready for anything. This doesn’t mean that everything is allowed, but it’s good to be prepared for different scenarios.

  1. Savor Every Second

Make sure that you are completely relaxed and on enjoying yourself rather than obsessing over whether you’re doing everything right.

  1. Mistakes are OK

Nobody’s perfect and nobody expects you to be perfect, either. If you make a mistake, create a mental note and simply move on.

  1. Nothing Lasts Forever

Finally, do note that for some people S&M is just a phase. Perhaps you will enjoy it to such a degree that you won’t be able to put the whip and nipple clamps down, but there is also a chance that you’ll get bored of it after a couple of tries.