Top 5 Benefits to BDSM that Nobody Mentions

Whether you’re into regular, boy-on-girl relationship or you’re more of a BBW dating person, there’s no denying that atypical sexual preferences are out there. The world (especially if you look at the internet) is swarmed with opportunities to try and experience many kinky and outside-the-box things in regards to sex and relationships.

One of the most important aspects of this “underground” world is BDSM. We’ve all heard about it, some of us have tried it, but rarely anyone knows if this kind of activity has any benefits and if so, what are they. That’s why we’ve decided to create a list of scientifically proven perks that you get from regularly practicing BDSM.

1. Faithfulness

This one comes straight from an actual psychotherapist, so you already know that it’s backed up by evidence. Dr. Jeffrey Sumber states that BDSM actually “dissuades many people from cheating or acting out of integrity” due to the amount of emotion, energy and trust that both sites invest into the relationship.

Furthermore, he adds that “Many who take it seriously are not interested in sabotaging the safety and trust that is imperative to its success.” In short, it’s a high risk-high reward type of situation that nobody wants to see fail.

2. Better Communication

It’s a fact that in order to do proper BDSM, you and your partner must have total understand and impeccable communication in order for everything to run as smoothly as possible. One misstep can lead to serious consequences, which is why BDSM is one of the best ways to practice communicating with your partner.

3. Less Anxiety

Believe it or not, but inflicting and receiving pain for sexual pleasure is an effective way of reducing anxiety in all aspects of one’s life.

In 2014, a study was presented in Austin, Texas at the annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology which has proven that sadomasochism (which an essential part of BDSM) has a positive effect on the blood flow in the brain and can cause a similar outcome to what most people know as “runner’s high.”

4. More Intimacy

While sex is by most people considered as the ultimate act of intimacy between two (or more) people, BDSM actually takes it to the next level simply because there’s much more at stake than “normal” sex.

Patricia Johnson, award-winning co-author of “Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Long-term Love” says that if someone is going to tie your wrists or strap you to a Saint Andrew’s cross only to flog and spank you, there has to be an immense level of trust involved.

5. Mental Health

It’s a common misconception that BDSM directly evokes rape, abuse and/or mental disorders, but thanks to science, we know that this is simply not true. The Journal of Sexual Medicine published a study in 2013 which showed that those who do BDSM regularly have better mental health scores than people who only did “regular” sex. The former proven themselves to be less neurotic and more secure and aware when it comes to relationships and rejection.