Reading Time: 2minutes Sure, inflicting and enduring a considerable amount of pain is one of the most popular segments of BDSM, but it's undoubtedly not the only one.
Hardcore. This is, undoubtedly, one of the most common questions when it comes to BDSM. It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about young singles or members of the senior dating niche, most people are not brave enough to engage in this form of kinky sex mainly because they think it’s too hardcore for them. The central question here is – does it really have to be hardcore? Absolutely not! So, if you’re interested in a milder form of BDSM, make sure to stick around and check out some of the ways to enjoy kinky sex without engaging in a rough sexual intercourse.
You Can Enjoy BDSM Without Pain
Sure, inflicting and enduring a considerable amount of pain is one of the most popular segments of BDSM, but it’s undoubtedly not the only one. You can enjoy kinky sex without sadism and masochism. You can restrict your partner and make them your sex “slave” without using force. Most BDSM acts are all about partners tying each other up and displaying dominance over one another. These acts can be performed without inflicting pain, so it’s safe to say that you can enjoy this type of sex without worrying about roughness. All you need are restraints.
BDSM Can Also Be Sensual
Most people picture bondage sex in some dungeon with rough leather ropes and chains. However, you can enjoy bondage sex with your significant other without using such severe equipment. Remember, BDSM is about dominance and submission, so feel free to use soft silk scarfs as bondages, and you’ll be able to enjoy a quite exciting BDSM adventure. After you bond your partner, you can use your fingertips, tongue, and lips to arouse them. Touch them softly, but don’t let them reach their orgasm. Make them beg before you allow them to cum. See, you don’t need the pain to have great kinky sex.
Sensation Play Is Also Kinky
Pain might be one of the most popular sensations among kinky people, but it’s not the only one. You can reach intense orgasms by experimenting with temperature changes on the skin and by using feathers. All you have to do is blindfold your partner or yourself and use ice, hot wax, and feathers. As you can see, no pain, just beautiful and orgasmic sensations.
It’s All About Control And Obeying Orders
As you probably know, dominance and submission don’t have to be expressed physically. You can make your partner do things for you just by playing the role of the master. BDSM is about control and obedience, and you can enjoy this type of sex without causing or enduring any pain whatsoever. All you have to do is set the scene right and set some ground rules. Make them respect your authority, and you won’t have to use force. Of course, a little bit of spanking is always fun.
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