It’s safe to say that BDSM has become quite common lately. Whether it’s because of the famous Fifty Shades franchise or because single individuals prefer to meet people online and state their intentions right away, the fact remains that men and women are quite kinky these days. Don’t get us wrong; this is a good thing. It means people are not afraid to explore their sexuality. However, not all of them are ready or trained for real BDSM. Now, don’t get discouraged, most vanilla couples can enjoy kinky sex without owning a sex dungeon. So, if you want to spice things up in the bedroom, check out these useful tips for BDSM beginners.
Visit A Sex Shop Together
A lot of couples feel slightly uncomfortable with the whole concept of kinky sex. You can, on the other hand, break the ice by visiting a sex shop with your partner. There, you’ll see that being kinky is perfectly reasonable and accepted. Most important, it’s nothing to be ashamed. Feel free to explore and buy various toys that you might use once you embark on your kinky adventure. This trip to a sex shop will allow you to reach a certain level of understanding with your partner, which is vital for a successful BDSM experience.
Sensation Play
Before you try those toys you bought at a sex shop; you should start with something simpler. Now, even though sensation play doesn’t seem too spicy at first, it can lead to very powerful orgasms. So, feel free to experiment with temperature changes on the skin. Use hot wax and ice cubes in combination with blindfolds to enhance sexual pleasure. However, be careful with the wax, you don’t want to burn your partner.
You Can Practice Bondage Without Actually Using Restraints
As you probably know, bondage is one of the most popular forms of BDSM for beginners. Naturally, you’ll be tempted to try it out. However, ropes and handcuffs can be a little bit too much for some people, so you should start with something gentler. You can use a silk scarf, or you can restrain your partner without using anything at all. Just order your lover not to move specific parts of their body and get down to business.
A Little Bit Of Spanking Is Always Nice
If you’re not comfortable with inflicting or enduring pain, a little bit of spanking is the perfect alternative for you. You can either use your hands or certain sex toys to spank your partner during intercourse. This kinky, but safe activity will spice things up in your bedroom.
Don’t Forget The Safe Word
Even though you probably know everything about the safe word, we still have to emphasize the importance of consent when it comes to BDSM. However horny you get, safety and well-being of your partner should always be a priority. Respect the safe word, and you have nothing to worry. This way, you’ll be able to enjoy your kinky sex and have a wonderful time.
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
