It’s that time of year again – gift and toys shopping time! In addition to the usual gadgets and neckties, why not get your guy some BDSM toys so you can ring in the new year with a bit of kinky fun?
Not sure where to start if you are new to the BDSM game? Here is a guide to get you going in the right direction, starting with Mild and moving to Wild!
Sensation Play Toys
These are great for beginners to explore BDSM in a somewhat gentle way. Popular items include:
Blindfolds. Never underestimate how much you can ratchet up the tension and eroticism of a scene by blindfolding one or more of the people involved. The minute things go dark, all the other senses go into high gear, and your imagination is free to run wild, conjuring up ideas of what might be about to happen.
Hot Wax. Nothing gets his full attention faster than having hot wax dripped on his skin. To to a sense of how much he can take, start with wax on less sensitive areas like the thighs and arms, and then move on to the chest and nipples. If he’s ready to go all out, go for the scrotum. Important Tip: Do NOT hold the candle close to his body. The recommended distance is 2-3 feet away which allows the wax to cool a bit on the way down.
The Wartenberg Pinwheel. These are actually diagnostic tools used by neurologists to check nerve sensitivity, but are perfect for BDSM sensation play. As you gently roll the pinwheel over his skin, the dozens of tiny needles give him little pin-pricks. Just be sure to be gentle as not to pierce his skin!
Ice Is Nice. A wonderful form of sensation play, ice cubes rubbed on the skin is very popular and sensual. It’s also useful after a hot wax session as it soothes the skin as well as makes it easier to get the wax off of him.
The Whartenberg Pinwheel
Impact Play Toys
The most common and popular BDSM activity. As the word “impact” implies, this is striking the body with varying degrees of intensity. The most important thing is that you establish safe words for him to use if you need to either decrease intensity or even stop the activity. Choices of impact play tools include:
Spanking. A very controllable and enjoyable activity for many men and women, this is so popular it even has its own subculture within the BDSM community.
Flogging. Floggers take many shapes and form ranging from tradition leather “cat-o-nine tails” to equestrian riding crops. Tip – before you flog anyone the first time, practice with it on a pillow so you can fine-tune your control and accuracy.
Paddling. Generally made of wood, paddles can include simple things like wooden kitchen spoons and the backs of hair brushes, as well as full blown BDSM paddles created just for the job. Again – care is needed as paddles can injure the skin.
Whips. The gold standard of impact play, whips are essentially thin braided leather tools and range from short to long. Extreme care and advanced practice is extremely important and if there is a BDSM club near you, many of them hold workshops with experienced teachers to teach you safe and effective whipping technique.
Classic Flogger
Insertion Play Toys
Some men simply don’t want to go here, but many do love to be anally penetrated. This can be done by fingering him, and move up to more elaborate play with dildos and vibrators. The king (or Queen rather) of the hill in this area is “Pegging” in which the woman puts on a strap on dildo harnesses and literally fucks him in the ass!
Cock sheaths or penis sleeves are toys for when you want to incorporate role play into your BDSM play. They’re used to increase the length and girth of a man’s penis, but some cock sleeves have special textures and vibrators to increase stimulation. A lot of people use these items for sexual play to stimulate greater pleasure.
That’s just a short guide to BDSM Sex Toys. You can find a large quality collection at such online stores as www.menstoyshub.com. Pay them a visit now for some kinky shopping fun!
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
