I’ve never been to a BDSM club before. What can I expect?
Even though BDSM has a long and rich history, in most countries it was considered a taboo for centuries. Today, however, the case is completely different, and men and women all over the world can talk about this particular fetish without being judged. If you’re interested in BDSM and you want to attend these types of parties, you need to educate yourself first. You can meet people online and ask them about these clubs and you’ll get a pretty good picture of what’s going on there. However, if you don’t have time for that kind of research, feel free to stick around and get familiar with the things you’re probably going to see in every BDSM club out there.
The Number Of People Varies
Yes, every BDSM club has its own reputation, but even the most popular ones are sometimes empty. There’s no rule or pattern you can apply in order to predict attendance. Some clubs are full from 7 pm to 10 pm, while others “come alive” around midnight. Therefore, it’s really important not to expect too much, because you might end up disappointed. Be patient, persistent, and remember, a number of people at the party has absolutely nothing to do with the quality of the club.
There’s No Rule Regarding The Age Of Guests
If you expect to find only young and restless in these clubs, well, you’re wrong because BDSM clubs have no rules regarding the age of their attendants. Of course, there is one rule that forbids minors to enter and that’s it. Therefore, prepare to see some rather kinky folk from age 18 to 80. It might be odd at first, but you’ll soon realize that this diversity is one of the biggest benefits of these clubs.
You’ll See A Lot Of Weird Equipment And Instruments
As you can probably anticipate, there’s going to be a fair amount of weirdness, especially when it comes to the equipment these people use to fulfill their wildest sexual fantasies. So, you can expect strange devices in every room of a BDSM club. Don’t touch or use any of them without the presence and guidance of an experienced member. This is for your own good.
You Can Participate If You Want
It doesn’t matter what you hear from other people, you need to know that participation in these BDSM acts is not mandatory at these parties. If you truly wish to experience something new, you can, but if just want to watch, no one there has the right to force you into doing something you don’t want to do.
There Are Certain Rules When It Comes To Observing The Acts
Since we mentioned “watching” as one of the main activities you can expect at a BDSM club (especially from newbies), we should tell you that there’s actually a right and the wrong way to enjoy the show. Observing quietly from a safe distance is definitely the right way to watch the show. You can talk to other spectators, just make sure to remain quiet. On the other hand, making loud and disrespectful remarks is ill-advised. This type of behavior will ruin the atmosphere in the club and you’ll be asked to leave.
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
