Introduction The following Partner Checklist serves two purposes: it demonstrates a few things you and your partner should consider before, during and after the play and some aspects which can be included in your play. It is also meant to help establishing a proper communication by going through the list and tell your partner what you like and what not and what you would like to try.
Notes Part 1 covers some safety aspects and contains some questions and hints related to health and safety issues. This part is especially important if you don’t know your partner very well or if you are going to play with a new partner.
Part 2 contains several play variants, sorted by topics.
“Active” means you want to be the active / executive part. “Passive” means as the receiving part.
The ranking starts at -3 (I don’t ever want to try this) and ranges to +3 (I like it very much). 0 means: “I don’t care / that doesn’t give me a ‘Kick'”.
You can also print this page and if you like fill it out together with your partner. Even the preparation of an “erotic power play” can be lots of fun and very stimulating.
BDSM Dictionary / Terms
Part 1 – Safety
I am mainly into:
(D/s, Sadism, Masochism, Bondage, Fetishism)
Safety Codes:
Red: Stop
Yellow: ok, but slower/less/careful
Green: Go on, more
Safeword:
Absolute Limits:
Visible bruises/marks must be avoided (Y/N):
Health Issues:
(Hemophilia, Allergies, Breathing Problems, Circulation, …)
Psychic Issues:
(Claustrophobia, …)
Other Remarks:
I want to talk before (Y/N):
I want to talk after the play (Y/N):
I want extensive verbal communication during the play (Y/N):
Part 2 – Play Variants
Was sort of variations in BDSM play are you interested in trying?
