Online dating is the way of the current world. Whether you are looking for vanilla dating or extreme BDSM dating, people are turning to the internet to help them find their match. That being said, this is still a relative new world. Especially when it comes to BDSM. People are still learning.
Today we are going to look at some of the key tips to make sure that online BDSM dating works for you.
Have An Open Mind
BDSM works best no matter how you date when you have an open mind. Be willing to listen to potential partners and see what their kinks are. Be willing to consider kinks that aren’t normally in your wheelhouse or that you haven’t tried. Many times this will result in you discovering something that you like.
Also keep an open mind when it comes to topics such as the appearance of your partner. BDSM is a very open world and you never know who might end up being enjoyable.
Sex Is Only Part Of The Game
BDSM is a lifestyle. That means that people enjoy it around the clock, whether it is sexually or non-sexually. It is important to remember that sex isn’t the only thing involved in online BDSM dating. Sending messages that are full of sexual content might turn people away.
It will also likely turn people away when you go straight to talking about sex during your first few conversations. Try to spend some time developing a conversation as BDSM relies heavily on trust.
Write A Thorough Profile
Your profile needs to address everything you want others to know about you and your kinks. A thorough profile will allow people to help determine if they want to partner with you or not. Try to make your profile not just about your sexual preferences or kinks. Include stuff that will interest potential partners and allow you to build something in common.
Choose A Good Profile Picture
A profile on almost all dating websites isn’t just about your written portion. It is also about the picture. On most BDSM dating sites like BDSM Dating Only you won’t get any responses to your messages if you don’t have a profile picture.
You don’t have to have a sexualized profile picture to make people interested. You can have a rather “vanilla” picture. On the other hand, you can have a very sexualized picture and leave your face out so that your image doesn’t get sent around the internet.
Login Regularly
Dating sites are constantly changing. New people are coming on, people are updating their profiles, messages are being sent, and people are leaving. If you don’t login to your BDSM account regularly, you will find yourself slipping behind when it comes to the website. You may miss out on the perfect match.
Messages that aren’t responded to quickly will often give people the impression that you aren’t overly interested in them. To help prevent this, we always recommend that you turn on notifications on your phone. Whether it is email notifications of messages or notifications from the dating app doesn’t matter. The idea is that you are alerted when you should check your account.
Think About Safety
Remember that we said BDSM relies heavily on trust? You need to factor safety into everything that you do on a BDSM dating website. Meeting people in private locations can be very dangerous. Everyone you decide to meet in real life, should be met in public locations first, such as a cafe. This allows you to gauge the other person before getting intimate. It also helps to verify they are who they said they were.
Don’t give out personal information on BDSM dating sites unless you are comfortable with it. Even if you are being pressured to.
Lastly, you should always be using some form of protection. Most often, condoms are the best route to go as they minimize the risk of STDs and pregnancy.
BDSM is a big world, with many people who are interested in finding a partner. That big world has a lot of likes though and in order to find a partner that matches your desires, you might have to do a lot of work. That is, unless you turn to online dating. Use these tips to help make your online dating experience smoother.
Coleen is a writer, photographer and film maker at Wasteland and Sssh.com.
Here at BDSMCafe.com, she is editor and curator of this comprehensive library of BDSM fiction, informational articles and other educational features that date back to the early days of the internet in 1996 when the site was first launched.
